Let's be completely honest here - people pleasers have a hard time saying no. As a recovering people pleaser, I know that when we are given something, it's hard to create boundaries (even if it's an item we don't want or need).
Things you might think if you are asked to take something/given something and say "no":
I am ungrateful
I am a bad (daughter, son, spouse, cousin, friend...)
I don't love them
They will feel bad about themselves/the item
They will be mad at me
They will not give me anything in the future
So the item is taken.
Then when stuff starts to pile up and it's time to declutter, these same feelings and thoughts come up but this time it's about letting the stuff go.
It sounds like it's never-ending but it doesn't have to be. If you are a people pleaser and tired of people dumping stuff on you, decluttering can be a great way to learn how to empower yourself. You can do this by working through the feelings associated with letting go of items you don't want (and maybe never wanted). The more comfortable you are with those feelings, the easier it will be to say no when someone asks you if you want a hand-me-down that you don't want. It is a process that takes time but imagine having a home that has exactly what you want in it, without any guilt. Not only will your home feel lighter but you can feel empowered knowing you can say no.
If you would rather spend your weekends living life and not sorting through your stuff, I've created a FREE download of the decluttering system I teach just for you. This will help you declutter in a simple, manageable, and achievable way. Click here to download it today
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